Give Fucks – But Choose

There is a difference between not giving a fuck as a defense mechanism, as armor against potential hurt, and being immune to the opinions of others. Give fucks. Give tons and tons of fucks. Don’t claim not to care. Care deeply. But not about the opinions of others. Care ABOUT others and what happened to…

Unconditional Love

The thing about unconditional love is that you don’t have to prove yourself worthy of it. It’s simply yours, no questions asked. So really, it takes the pressure off you to BE anything and leaves you all the room to DO the work you are now able to see that you need to do.

Where is your energy going?

The amount of energy involved in resisting personal growth is about double what is required to grow, in my humble estimation, based on personal experience and anecdotal observation.

What do you REALLY want?

When we say we want something, do we actually mean we want it? Or are we actually saying we think it should be handed to us on a silver platter, that it should be given to us as a right of our existence? Are we willing to do the work involved to get what we…

Look for Root Cause

An example of a socially-condoned attitude that needs to change: “Doctor, I can’t breathe out of my nose.” “You have allergies. Here’s a pill.” Problem fixed. Or is it? In actuality, a new problem has been created which does not address the original problem. Now we have an individual with potential lifelong drug dependency, as…

The Rack of Accountability

This clothes rack of mine is significant in a few ways. Now that I am in the final stage of my current journey, I am owning aspects of myself that have felt non-integratable until now. I have been a mindless consumer of clothing, because new things gave me a temporary endorphin hit, and so I…

#motherhood

Scenario: I return from two hours of running around a 10km radius to acquire groceries to both feed my family this week and to fill the freezer for when I am away next weekend. I return with many bags full of food and an afternoon of intensive food prep ahead of me. I have help…

Owning the Hurt

Are you able to tell the difference between feeling bad because someone hurt you, and feeling badly because you hurt someone? This is what being an adult is about. It is the essence of ownership of yourself and your behaviour. It is a critical exercise to reflect on this distinction and to understand that your…

Use Your Gifts

Today for the first time I expressed outloud what has been a central theme for me most of my life but I never fully saw that I was doing. If you’ve been given a gift, use it to elevate yourself above the crowd. Don’t be the person who doesn’t show what she’s good at because…