Breaking Up (with social media) Is Incredibly Hard to Do.

It is SO hard to leave social media. I thought I’d left it, but now I know that in this life, and without much more blood sacrifice, I may never be able to truly pull free. On November 16, I pulled the plug on Facebook. I was firm about it. In no uncertain terms, I let…

Resilience and The Edge

In the last two years I’ve experienced divorce after 20 years of marriage, a move, major business challenges, a breakup, and massive attacks from members of communities that I have built. I’d had the arrogance to think that I’d done the work to heal my wounds, that I was tough as nails, and that the…

The Impossible Pursuit of Happiness – Lessons from Shtisel

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning With all this time I’ve carved out in my life because I quit Facebook, I can now indulge in the pleasure of diving into an engrossing show. My next step will be to simply sit and enjoy the show for…

Cutting through the Noise

Tomorrow it will be five weeks since I left Facebook. I’m still alive. I barely recognize myself. My cage of choice is much smaller than the previous version. But now the decor is more to my taste, and I am in full control of who I choose to allow to occupy it with me. If…

How Accountable Are You?

It’s a big word, accountability. At its base, from dictionary.com: ac·count·a·bil·i·ty /əˌkoun(t)əˈbilədē/ noun the fact or condition of being accountable; responsibility. “their lack of accountability has corroded public respect”   There is so much to read on the subject, but there’s so much more room for nuance than most people understand. Did you know that…

On Responsibility

It’s been one week since I broke up with social media. I intend for this to be a permanent move. I was enmeshed. I was beyond choice. I was irresponsible. I was addicted. And I am done. A wise woman said to me this week, “You are running water. Running water cannot be stopped. It…

Alone

(Photo credit – I found it on the internet a while ago and am not sure who to credit :/) Happy Labour Day, everyone! Today is a day to rest from the busy-ness of life, and a day to process. Some thoughts to share with you, as I gather them to me with the intention…

Contraction and Expansion

It’s been a long time since I felt in the right place to sit and get my thoughts down. Here I am, now, somewhat settled into a new normal, a new home, a new me, a new beginning, a space full of promise and potential. And so, I settle into a beat up old wing…

Don’t Wait To Be Asked

If you sit around waiting for people to ask how you are, you may be sitting for a very long time. Share. Don’t wait to be asked. Take up your space. And let others deal with their own reactions to your suffering.