Don’t Wait To Be Asked

If you sit around waiting for people to ask how you are, you may be sitting for a very long time. Share. Don’t wait to be asked. Take up your space. And let others deal with their own reactions to your suffering.

The Body Signals

The more time that goes by, and the more I live and see and surrender to, the more I realize that the symptoms my body manifests are all tied into the psycho-spiritual realm. And there’s so much…I don’t know…comfort in that?

On Integrity

It’s a trying time. We’re in a state of radical expansion now, from an esoteric perspective, and boy, is it ever painful. Here’s what I’m seeing now, and I’m recording it here so that a year later I can look back and say, “Holy crap, Ilana – were you ever talking out of your ASS.”…

Frivolity and Frilly Panties

On Friday night I went with my good friend to try on corsets . As I expand into my feminine self, I’m more and more drawn to the burlesque scene. I feel that expansion requires the radical, as, if the goal is to create a new baseline, then the extreme ends of the continuum have…

Take up your space. 

There is space that is created, when you come in to this world, just for you to occupy.  If you shrink to try to avoid taking it up, because you feel you are not worthy of all of it, the absence of you in that space creates a black hole that sucks in all the…

Read. 

Read. Read books. But not to escape. Read books to connect with YOU. Books are written by people who have taken the time to do the work that you are refusing to do, and they are guides and frameworks, maps of you. They reduce your work load by half. If you don’t choose to read…

Intentions for my 42nd Year

This year, my 42nd trip around the sun (and on my 41st birthday) – I am setting the following intention for myself. I will move backwards. I will take the path of most resistance and challenge to foster further growth and resilience. I will rewalk my paths, leading with the other foot. And I will…

The Practice of Active Vulnerability

Vulnerability. Our collective Achilles heal. The majority of the people on this planet spend their lives doing everything in their power to avoid experiencing pain. But guess what you cannot have access to if you are not willing to risk feeling pain? That’s right. You guessed it.¬†Without the experience of pain, pleasure is not within…

Time

Instead of saying, “I didn’t have time for this or that”, try an exercise in truth.  Change the dialogue to, “This or that was not high enough on my list of priorities to achieve in the amount of time I allotted to achieving things.” Use this dialogue to understand, finally, how you prioritize your relationship…

The Rift

In the early stages of coming into ownership of our lives and choices, we can’t avoid clashing with others and ultimately, we shouldn’t try, not in the early stages of the Work. The rifts in relationships that are caused from the disagreement and our reactions to the disagreement show us where the weaknesses are in…

Watch Your Words

Words that misrepresent our relationship with the food we consume: Healthy. Clean. Food can never be healthy. Food can be health promoting. You get to health and wellness by choosing how to nourish your body and soul. Quit labelling your food the wrong way.

Give Fucks – But Choose

There is a difference between not giving a fuck as a defense mechanism, as armor against potential hurt, and being immune to the opinions of others. Give fucks. Give tons and tons of fucks. Don’t claim not to care. Care deeply. But not about the opinions of others. Care ABOUT others and what happened to…